By Jodi Lobozzo Aman
Love can be defined so many different ways, but I don’t believe any of those ways are wrong. They are simply…ways.
Love is always defined to the extent a person understands it. In that way, it is different for everyone.
And, love is ever changing as we develop, grow, and relate to the world around us. So, then, what is “real” love? “Real”, like “beauty,” is in the eye of the beholder. There is no real real.
Everything is relative. Except the speed of light. There is no universal truth, only personal understandings (which change), so how can there be “real” love? I can only answer what love is from my own perspective.
I see love as the answer to everything and is the answer to all. Love is how we heal. Love is pure selfishness and selfless at the same time, since love is oneness with another. Love is knowing we are not separate. Love is forgiveness and trust. Love is inclusive, and never wanting.
People often ask: “Why does love hurt so much?” I say, “Love doesn’t hurt. Fear, loss, betrayal, longing, confusion, manipulation hurts. These things are not love. Not even close. Absent in the expression, but implicit in the meaning of them is love.
So love is the deepest pain, and the greatest joy. Both are the same when looked at–love is at their center. The self-same center. When pain is touched, the love is revealed. We can feel the pain, but stand in the love if we chose to. And, we keep choosing to.
Love is endlessly complicated, but comes back around to the simplest notion: Oneness. There is nothing to fear when everything is divine. Love is divine, and everything is love.
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